Good Inside insists that behavior is never the deepest story. Hitting, lying, whining, shutting down, and rudeness are surface expressions of overwhelm, fear, shame, or unmet need rather than final verdicts on a child’s character.
That shift matters because parents intervene differently when they separate person from behavior. Judgment tries to crush the symptom. Curiosity looks for the condition producing it.
This has ministry and theology implications too. If people are more than their worst moment, then correction should start with reality-seeing rather than accusation.