Good Inside describes connection as a kind of capital. Children draw on it when they are asked to transition, tolerate frustration, or receive correction, and parents deplete it every time they ask for difficult cooperation.
That means correction works best when relationship is already stocked with attention, delight, and felt safety. Behavior-first approaches often fail because they spend what they never deposited.
The idea scales beyond parenting. Churches, teams, and mentoring relationships also require relational capital before hard asks can be heard as care instead of threat.